Over the last few weeks, we’ve talked about feeling collected. Whether that simply means feeling healthy, happy, and put together, being more mindful of what you’re picking up and carrying with you, or doing the things that make you feel more like yourself, we could all benefit from making some more space to feel collected.
To wrap up the collected challenge and move us into a month of ease in April, I have three of my very favorite posts/episodes to share with you.
These posts are by moms, for moms. And they totally get it.
I hope that these stories and tips will inspire you to take good care of yourself, do the things that make you feel amazing, and make this the best year ever.
First up is Nikki Elledge Brown’s Red Lips and Dance Parties Episode from her new podcast, Naptime Empires.
Nikki is an entrepreneur and a mom of two. In the online business world, she’s known as the Communication Stylist and helps business owners with smart, authentic communication. In her new podcast, Naptime Empires, she’s sharing what she calls a potluck of ideas about parenting and entrepreneurship. I think so much of what she and her guests talk about on the podcast are perfect for any working, ambitious, or entrepreneurial mom.
In this episode, Nikki challenges you to give yourself two minutes of extra, loving attention to feel confident and explains why it’s of service to the whole family for you to take care of yourself.
I definitely know the feeling of not wanting to get dressed over the weekend or when I’m home from work. It’s straight to the mom uniform of ponytail and yoga pants.
I’m all for comfort and being authentic, but the truth is that a lot of this comes from the belief that I don’t have time to give myself any extra attention. This episode of Naptime Empires was the little prompt I needed to change the way I look at self-care.
After listening, I found myself in the perfect moment to do a little something for myself. The kids were quiet and playing independently 30 minutes before we needed to leave the house. It’s never a guarantee that I’d the whole 30 minutes before the quiet playtime mutates into pandemonium. Never. Still, my first thought was “go clean the playroom” when I remembered her words to do something to feel “fancy pants.” I stopped myself and got myself the glass of water I’d been putting off all morning.
Seriously, a glass of water felt fancy. I sat down with that water and cleared a little space in my brain by updating my calendar and getting a little planning for the week done.
It might not sound so glamorous, but it felt amazing. And it was a start.
Since that day, I’ve been more mindful of this whole I don’t have time business. Really, it doesn’t take that long to get a glass of water or comb your hair or put on lip gloss or matching socks, but it makes a HUGE difference in how the rest of your day feels.
So this is my collected challenge to you. GO LISTEN! And then take her up on her challenge to give yourself 90 seconds. It will be glorious 🙂
If you loved it as much as I did, she has a ton of gems on the podcast. (I highly recommend On Mom Guilt and Martyrdom.)
Next is Lauren’s post, 25 Tips to Make 2017 Your Best Year Ever, on her blog Working Mom Magic.
Lauren is a television executive producer with two kids. She writes about crafts, parenting, fitness, recipes, and juggling it all as a working mom.
In this post, Lauren shares an inspiring list of ways to make 2017 your best year ever. It gave me so many ideas that I couldn’t wait to try. Some of my favorites on her list are starting a bullet journal, making a vision board, starting a gratitude journal, and getting in exercise 3 times per week.
Again, the tips that Lauren shares don’t need to take up a whole lot of time, but they can make a huge difference in your day AND your year.
Reading this inspired me to get back on track with simple habits that make a big difference in the day. With this pregnancy, exercise and sleeping have been hard, but even spending 10 minutes stretching in the morning helps the day start out better. I’ve also invested in a dot grid journal to create my own bullet journal. I absolutely LOVE it – it’s the perfect, custom-made planner that helps me not only track the things I need to do but things I’m grateful for and looking forward to.
One of the best parts of this list is knowing that Lauren is working on making her 2017 the best year ever right along with you.
Read the post and choose a step you’d like to take in 2017.
Here are just a few more of Lauren’s posts (really, there’s so much goodness at Working Mom Magic) that you can add to your best year ever reading list:
The last post I’d like to share with you in this collection is Nina’s post, Be Where You Need to Be, on Sleeping Should Be Easy.
Nina is a mom to three boys, including twins. At Sleeping Should Be Easy, she talks about the joys and challenges of parenthood. It’s her goal for you to walk away from her blog each time with a little more insight into how to be the best parent you can be – no guilt trip required!
In this post, Nina offers a gentle reminder that when we’re feeling frustrated is often the time we need to allow ourselves to be where we need to be. Like this morning, when my daughter was inexplicably up at 5, which is supposed to be my quiet writing time before I leave for work.
Even though I had all kinds of plans for that time, there she was asking for water and a story. After ushering her back to bed a few times, it was clear that this morning was not going to go how I wanted it to go, and I reminded myself that this isn’t going to happen tomorrow or the next day.
(And that maybe I would actually miss it one day.)
At that moment, maybe that glass of water and a story was exactly where I needed to be.
It’s natural to get frustrated as a parent. Your whole life as you knew it changed the moment you had kids, and it keeps changing with every stage and milestone you reach.
With so many competing demands and an addiction to being busy, it can so often feel like we’re supposed to be somewhere else, maybe a lot of other places, and doing something else, and again, maybe a LOT of different things.
Nina offers the reminder that at this moment, this is where you are. So let yourself be there.
A few of Nina’s other posts that I think go along well with the collected challenge we’re wrapping up are:
I hope these posts leave you feeling inspired to take care of yourself so that you can feel amazing and make this your best year ever.
Get all of the goodies that go along with the Collected Challenge. I have worksheets, a meditation download, and a bonus coloring page tucked away for you in the Year of Happy Free Library. Sign up and start making the space for more of what you want and how you want to feel.